The Sovereign Effect

blog - The Sovereign EffectFor one reason or another, I seem to have a lot of people in my life right now who are stressed out. I don’t believe there’s any connection amongst them – although I suppose it’s always possible that I myself am the annoying common denominator. For the most part though, I think it’s random stuff – work is tough; relationships are tough; health problems are tough. In a sinful world, you find trouble, regardless of the wise choices you make and the preventative measures you take.

Americans, because we like to believe we control our destiny, generally don’t passively accept misfortune. This is also one of the reasons why studies have suggested that we cope worse with disasters than almost any other people group on the planet. We always tend to think there was something we could have done differently.

Theologically, the Bible offers a beautiful response to the uncertainty and trouble of life – it’s called providence. It’s the idea that God works through, and ultimately guides all the circumstances of life (Rom. 8:28; Gen. 50:20).

As a pastor, what I find interesting though is that there are some Christians who are perhaps more equipped to live their lives out of this doctrine than others. Without getting too dry, let me explain quickly. I’m Lutheran. If you were to boil Confessional Lutheranism down into one phrase, it’d probably be something like – “We are saved by grace.” While that is not the only Lutheran doctrine or an exclusively Lutheran doctrine, it is the hallmark, the emphasis, of Lutheran theology. Each church has its own theological tradition. Baptist doctrine tends to boil down to the emphasis of spiritual regeneration. Catholic doctrine tends to focus on the sanctity of the Church. Arminian theology (predominantly non-denominational churches) tend to emphasize new, meaningful life.

None of these are incorrect. In other words, they’re all biblical teachings. I happen to be Lutheran because I believe that justification – God reconciling the world to himself by grace through Jesus – is indeed the main teaching of the Bible and therefore should be the main point of our teaching. That said, there is one theological tradition that strongly emphasizes the providence of God – Calvinist theology. People who practice such a theology tend to more frequently refer to God as “Sovereign.” Now I don’t have any research to back this up, but my speculation is that individuals who hold to such theology are probably also less worried, anxious, frustrated people.

Here’s why….

The Cause and Cure of Anxiety

The word “sovereign” technically means “to be independent or outside of other authority.” What’s interesting to me is the fact that the word itself sounds almost archaic to 21st century western people. Why? I believe it’s because philosophically we don’t like to believe that we are “under” anyone or anything. We like to think we’re on top – that we make the rules and create our own destiny.

However, this notion that we’re on top or in control of our lives actually generates a great deal of anxiety for us. Inevitably, every human, no matter how intelligent or talented, comes to the conclusion that he has very little control of many aspects of his life. CEO’s still get sick. Politicians still have families that fall apart. Celebrities still feel empty. The humans who are at the height of control on this planet still come to the same painful understanding that the rest of us do, namely, that they have infinitesimally little control over their lives. And this realization of a lack of control causes panic and worry.

So here’s the secret. Anxiety comes when you think your life is supposed to go a certain way, you begin to perceive it not going that way, and you realize that you are, to a large degree, powerless to change the course.

Furthermore, generally speaking, your greatest source of anxiety are your own personal idols. Idols are the things which aren’t God that you tend to build your identity and life value around. If that includes family, then whenever you see your children threatened in any way, you panic. If it’s your career, then whenever your big project isn’t materializing the way you’d planned, you’re not making your quota, or your boss calls you into his office, you panic.

This is nothing new. We see anxiety plenty in the Bible. We also see how Jesus wants us to handle it. Take the disciples for example:

Then he (Jesus) got into the boat and his disciples followed him.Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping.The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!”He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm.(Matt. 8:23-26)

The disciples desired safety for their own lives. Very normal, natural desire. They realized that a circumstance entered their lives that they couldn’t control that threatened their safety, i.e. the storm. They panicked. Jesus rebuked them for their failure to recognize the fact that he himself, as God, was sovereign over the wind and the waves. He proceeded to give them evidence that he was in control, calming the squall.

The point is this: even if you aren’t in control of all of the circumstances of your life (and humility leads you to recognize the reality that you’re not), you’ll avoid anxiety by recognizing that you have a loving Lord and Savior who does rule over all of the circumstances of life. He loved you enough that he died for you – so he clearly has your best interest in mind. And he’s powerful enough that he rose from the dead – clear evidence that he has authority over everything in the universe.

What We Can Control

I believe God created the ant to teach us something about ourselves. Yes, the ant.

Ant societies have division of labor, communication between one another, and an ability to solve complex problems. The parallels to the human experience are actually quite striking. In fact, ants are even referenced in the Book of Proverbs as something as an ideal for humans – for their wisdom, strength, and cooperation (Prov. 6:6; 30:25). Ants can carry up to 25 times their body weight. If they were the size of humans, they could run as fast as racehorses. And they are significantly more socially intuitive and interpersonal than humans. But the reality is this – how hard is it to squash an ant or all of its efforts, really?

Look through a telescope sometime this summer. Realize you are an ant in this universe.

If you truly believe that you’re in control over your own life, you should be wetting your pants about what might come next. We can barely control our own behavior, let alone have dominion over the entire environment that surrounds us.

But, if you have a Sovereign God, you can enjoy dry pants as you “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:6-7)

Pray and understand what prayer is. God has not given us the gift of prayer to take control over our lives. He’s given us prayer to condition and tenderize our hearts, to conclude that he is in control. Use it that way. Resigning yourself to God’s good will takes the weight of the world off of you and puts it where it belongs – in the hands of the one who created it and can actually handle it.

Understanding this element of the gospel of Jesus will not only allow you to breathe, but it’ll make the air taste that much sweeter.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Phil. 4:6)

Let me leave you with one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever heard.

Why So Many Young Adults Leave Church…and What We Can Do

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My congregation started a new Bible Study this week based on Dr. Timothy Keller’s The Prodigal God. If you haven’t read it, I won’t steal all his thunder, just mention that it falls into that must read category, particularly for Christians who were raised in a Christian church. It’s a brilliant exposition on arguably Jesus’ most famous parable – often called The Prodigal Son. But herein lies the problem. Translators have put the heading into your Bibles calling this The Prodigal (or Lost) Son. But Jesus actually intends for this parable to be a lesson as much or more for the Pharisees and teachers of the law rather than for the sinners and tax collectors. You’ll notice Jesus actually starts the parable by saying, “There was a man who had TWO sons.” (Luke 15:11)

Culturally speaking, highly religious and conservative people have generally seen one group of people as those who are ruining the world – those who take away God’s Commands – the “Younger Brothers” if you will. And that’s essentially how sin has come to be defined in many churches, i.e. disobedience to God’s commands.

Certainly, ignoring God’s clear moral will is indeed a form of sin. And all sin drives us away from God (Isaiah 59:2). But disobedience is not the only way to be far from God. Another way to separate yourself from God is by assuming you are close to God due to your obedience, your moral conformity. This is the mistake of “Elder Brothers.” In other words, any attempt to experience “salvation” apart from Jesus – whether it be through your own licentious self-indulgence OR your performance-based self-righteousness – it’s all sin.

The reality is that for many, many years, churches have been full of elder brother types. And very few church leaders have called them/us out to repentance on it. These individuals are often pillars of the the community, ultra regular in church activities, and perhaps even large financial contributors. But self-righteousness is one of the most deadly sins, because the self-righteous individual is blind to his own distance from God. At least the immoral, debaucherous person recognizes how imperfect he  is, and therefore, in a sense, is actually more in touch with spiritual reality than the moralist, who thinks he has drawn close to God on his own.

So….if you don’t consistently call out elder brothers on their self-righteous attitudes for a  number of generations in the church (or at least to the degree that you call out younger brothers), what do you get? In many cases, you may get a “church” that is perhaps permeated by an elder brother attitude. Or, as Keller insightfully suggests, “If the preaching of our ministers and the practice of our parishoners do not have the same effect on people that Jesus had, then we must not be declaring the same message that Jesus did. If our churches aren’t appealing to younger brothers, they must be more full of elder brothers than we’d like to think.” (The Prodigal God, pgs. 18-19)

I think that’s what I see young people reacting to today. One study I read recently on barna.org suggested that about 60 percent of young people who were active in church as teenagers failed to translate that into an active spiritual commitment during their early adulthood. The general elder brother assessment of that which I’ve heard is that “the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.” (2 Tim. 4:3) Well, that’s a possibility. But what I’m suggesting is, as the Church, let’s make sure that what young people are rejecting is the gospel itself, and not elder brother behavior.

It’s entirely possible that many young people today aren’t just “itching ears” but that they hate 11th commandments as much as the Bible suggests they should (Rev. 22:18). And when they sense that a church is seeking to do legalistic behavior modification on them rather than inside-out gospel transformation, they understandably reject that.

Little old me? Am I really a problem?

If, like many Americans, when hearing the parable of The Prodigal Son, you have only ever thought of the younger son’s behavior as the “sin,” then yes, this likely is a problem for you.

I’ve heard an endless and fascinating array of comments from lifelong Christians (and many have probably come from my own lips at some point) that fall into “elder brother” territory. I’ve heard teens be introduced to some contemporary Christian music and enjoy it only to matter-of-factly say, “but we could never use this in worship.” Now who gave them that idea! I’ve heard a woman correct a young mom for not wearing the correct footwear in church (my favorite part is that the objectionable footwear was sandals – so that ironically, 1st century Jesus, in this person’s mind, probably would have been dressed inappropriately in his own church 🙂 ). I’ve had someone challenge me on my wife wearing jeans to worship. I proceeded to ask what exactly the most righteous of fabrics was, it led to a good conversation, and I subsequently started wearing jeans to the office more often.

I could go on and on, but suffice it to say that 11th Commandments kill spiritual vitality. They drive people away. When you understand this you begin to understand part of the reason why the younger brother in the parable wanted to get away from home in the first place. I believe elder brotherism has largely driven a younger generation away. And absolutely the single most terrifying thing about self-righteousness is this: when Jesus teaches the parable of The Two Lost Sons, the younger son finally comes to his senses, repents of his wicked ways, and is welcomed into the Father’s feast (representative of heaven). But the elder brother….we just don’t know. Jesus leaves the story as a cliffhanger. And you can very easily imagine him finishing the tale and staring into the eyes of the moralistic law-keepers, challenging their next move.

Let me add one note here – it may sound as though I’m suggesting a previous generation (or generations) contaminated the Christian faith. Well, they didn’t do a perfect job, but NO generation has. I actually think the problem is a combination of things old and new. 1) We’ve raised a generation of consumer-minded young people who simply aren’t buying the church of the previous generation(s) and have opted out. 2) Too many churches have intentionally or unintentionally communicated that “church” is primarily about conformity to preexisting conservative culture (ideology, appearance, art forms) rather than what it’s actually about – a reconciled relationship with God through a living God-man, Jesus.

I think this has created a perfect storm that’s bringing us nearer to a make-or-break point for the Christian church in America.

Is there a Solution?

When the gospel of Jesus Christ is involved, there’s always a solution.

Let me start by suggesting what I don’t think it is. From some of my previous comments, you might think that I’m advocating the end of traditional worship and the implementation of something more trendy. I’m really not. In fact, this might sound strange to you, but as a 31-year-old pastor who has attended church all but a handful of Sundays in his life and observed services of almost every possible denominational and theological background, I don’t believe I’ve ever sat in one worship service and said from top-to-bottom, “Yeah, that felt like my style of worship.” Generally-speaking, in traditional worship, I tend to feel like the service was written for saints who were on earth 500 years ago, but they’re not here and I am, so why am I worshiping with their voice. In contemporary services, I tend to feel like I’m being coerced into something emotionally or physically that I’m not entirely comfortable with. I know I don’t have to sway or dance or throw my arms up, but lots of uncoordinated people are, and quite honestly I don’t know if men should be swaying anyways. Folk music tends to feel a bit unprofessional. High church Latin chanting……if no one understands the message, we might as well scat and beatbox for Jesus and consistently call all religious cacophony beneficial.

While I may or may not have preferences, what I’m trying to say is that while none of these musical forms is sinful, none of them is perfect. Consequently, to some degree at least, I’ve resigned myself to the fact that I don’t know that stylistically I’ll feel “home” until the day “they cry out in a loud voice:“Salvation belongs to our God, who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb.” (Rev. 7:10) Then everything will be just right.

So, while different musical styles might be more readily accepted by young people, that doesn’t answer the spiritual issue. I don’t know that people leave church because they don’t like music. They leave because they don’t recognize living relationship with God. And one thing that obstructs relationship with God is….elder brotherism. And wise and faithful early church leaders have understood this from the start. “Now then, why do you try to test God by putting on the necks of Gentiles a yoke that neither we nor our ancestors have been able to bear?No! We believe it is through the grace of our Lord Jesus that we are saved, just as they are.” (Acts 15:10-11; see also, Gal. 2:3-4)

So the first part in reclaiming young adults would seem to be to clarify what exactly the gospel is and what it is not. It is NOT a style that fits into any given time period. It’s the endless, timeless, all-surpassing grace of God.

Secondly, here’s what I do think is part of the solution. Since the gospel is living and active (Heb. 4:12), it requires connection with other living and active souls. It’s no secret that if most youth leave church, it’s typically during the college years and when they move out on their own. This isn’t just because they’re encountering new humanistic philosophies and people from all walks of life, although that contributes. But it’s also because they no longer have any built in spiritual support system – friends or family that will hold them accountable. That safety net has to develop in new places for young adults to stick.

So the first living and active individual to have relationship with is obviously Jesus himself. But on earth, if it’s just him and me, and that’s my only Christian relationship, that’s simply not enough. We were intended to have our spiritual sensory needs met by God’s Spirit living in fellow believers, i.e. the Church. And if that sounds strange to you, consider how God had a perfect relationship with Adam in the Garden of Eden and yet how, to some degree, he didn’t consider even that enough for Adam (Gen. 2:18).

So it is essential that we have Christian relationships, and for the most part, Christian relationship building simply cannot fully happen in Sunday morning worship. There must be deeper connectivity and fellowship. Otherwise, it doesn’t matter if you have J.S. Bach or J. Timberlake leading your worship music, you’re probably not going to retain young people in meaningful ways.

By way of anecdote, I’ve been doing small group Bible study for several years. The first year, after one of the studies, one person commented to me and said – “That was fun. I learned a lot. We prayed for each other. It was VERY personal. I feel like that’s what ‘church’ is supposed to be.” EXACTLY. While the New Testament doesn’t give us much mandate in the way of conducting Christian worship, you definitely get the sense that NT worship worship contained a greater sense of interpersonal relationship (albeit sometimes messy) than the 21st century church. NT worship didn’t seem to allow for anonymity and disconnectedness.

So again, let me be clear – Christian faith saves. Christian relationships do not. But genuine Christian faith must inevitably generate deep, authentic Christian relationships.

Look to find a Christian friend. Look to be a Christian friend. That all means support, accountability, and forgiveness. In other words, warm love, tough love, and grace.

Young or old, God is calling you into sincere, genuine relationship with fellow Christians. Find a church that cultivates that. Know the Savior who makes that all possible.

If young adults at my church build relationships with faithful Christians, my preaching could be boring, our music could be boring, our programs could stink, and our facilities could stink, but these people probably wouldn’t leave. After all, your family might be boring, but they’re still “home.” So you go back to them.

And once you’ve had genuine Christian relationship rooted in Christ himself, complaints about the other details seem a bit superficial.

“It took us a long time to understand that church wasn’t a building or a pastor or a sermon series. It’s easy to point out everything wrong with the church when you stand outside it and approach it with a consumer mentality. We thought the church had given us second faith, when in reality we had chosen to avoid firsthand relationship with the community of Christ followers we claimed to care about.” – Ryan & Josh Shook (firsthand: Ditching Secondhand Religion for a Faith of Your Own, pg. 176)